Scientists say that children identify with the gender personality that they are going to be at a young age. I have noticed in my time around children that they tend to show the gender that they identify with the most through the way they speak, clothes they choose, and even sometimes the toys that they choose to play with. Of course none of these tactics are exact. So even if a little boy likes to play with Barbie dolls it does not automatically mean that he is going to be gay or soft. So even if the child does seem to identify with one particular gender more than the other, there is no exact way to decipher if they are going to be gay etc..

So when I read the story about the Long Island man who killed a 17 month old boy because he was acting like a girl, I wanted to vomit. What a f**king sick individual. Apparently the man was babysitting the child and felt that the child was too feminine and that the way to toughen him up was to punch the child several times in the chest. The infant Roy A. Jones was found in cardiac arrest and rushed to South Hampton Hospital where he died.

I hear stories like these and I wonder what are the qualifications that parents use when choosing a baby sitter? How do they decide who they are going to leave their child with? Almost every month we hear about some man or woman who was “watching” a child and lost their temper with the child and ended up killing the child.

Parents be cautious of who you leave your child with. Not everyone has the patience necessary to deal with a child. Especially one that is not their own. This is why sometimes I battle with the idea that the parents should also be responsible to some extent for their child’s death by a baby sitter. This might be the push needed to be more selective in who they leave their kids with.

Another topic that I want to touch on is the idea that a child can act like a girl or a boy. I understand the need to make your boys tough and your girls like little ladies. But at some point there has to be balance between you grooming them to be the man or woman that you would like them to one day become and the person that they will be regardless of how much you encourage them to behave like a traditional gender.

I’m all for making young boys tough to some degree. Especially little Black boys because lets face it, they will have it much worse in society over all as a Black man. So yes, you should groom them to be tough, you should groom them to be strong, productive men, but this grooming process does not always consist of strong arming them. This grooming process does not end and begin with beatings, spankings, and being yelled at. I constantly encourage parents to implement balance when raising their kids. Also, not every little boy is going to be a rough and tumble type of boy. Some will have a softer demeanor than others. However, that does not necessarily mean that they are gay. Strong arming them does not make them tough, it simply makes them hateful towards the world around them. Then we wonder ten years later why little Eric shot up his school?

Lastly, people, stop leaving your damn kids with psychopaths! Do some background checks and research on people before you allow them to care for your seeds. I know that sometimes you have to go to work, or you want to go out and have a personal life. Choose a baby sitter like your child’s life depended on it. Sometimes it just might.

Via: Towleroad.com