I have a mother who has never been truly happy for me in anything in my life without her own self-pity. She was always jealous of the attention my Dad gave me and my brother, and she never concealed it, even when we were kids. She used us as weapons to get her own way with our Dad. She divorced him, and took custody of us (she insisted on it), but as soon as he moved on and got remarried, she left us on his doorstep when he wasn't home. Obviously we were of no use to her once that happened. We were no longer of any value to her in order to get her way. We couldn't be used as her little pawns anymore.
After many years, I had forgiven her, but her selfishness is evident even now. Every conversation turns out to be about her and how "nobody ever thinks of her" well, nobody has a chance to because she is already busy doing that herself.

@OhPlease: Wow that is sad. Your sis definitely has some issues that she needs to work through...like us all hell!.. but anyway, yea this topic is something!

I never witnessed anything like this in my family, but I did have a close friend who's mom was jealous of her. My girlfriend was tall and slim. She was pretty fair skinned with jet black hair and had the cutest button nose. Unlike her mother who was short,round and wide with big processed bouffant hair. She would say things like, "You old light skinned B*^ch! You aint cute!!" She wouldn't let her come outside sometimes just because..smh.. yea some people are just stone crazy!

Reminds me of that "Ya-Ya" movie with Sandra Bullock. I knew a girl in high school that had a jealous mother. Her mother gave her everything, making her the most popular girl in our high school. Her mother hated it so much. I am thinking because she probably wasn't popular she made her daughter into the popular and that then probably brought back every hateful memory. All I know is that she treated her daughter like dirt. Now she is off living her life and her mother is delivering my mail.

Peace, Love and Chocolate
Tiffany

LJ I know this situation all too well, My sister is jealous of her children and just family members in general. She is somewhat of a genius who graduated salutatorian of her class and got a full scholarship to college but dropped out due to pregnancy. Growing up she always received praises for her grades and intelligence and was coddled. So naturally our family was disappointed when she dropped out of school but she was still getting attention due to the fact that she was pregnant but as soon as she had the baby the attention shift from her to her daughter and she would make statement like her child does not like her and even accuses the baby of trying to poison her when she was 2 years old. We also have a rocky relationship because after I graduated from college she felt the family made too big a deal and a BA "Was just a piece of paper". During the same time she got pregnant again so the attention was back on her now this daughter is 3 years old and smart as ever,She can count, speak Spanish, read and write her own name and as soon as people comment on this she becomes combative and again her child does not like her.She refuses to let the girls take extra curricular activities, I feel because she believes they will out shine her. Her latest fit of jealousy is with our youngest sister, who recently had a boy baby in a family that is full of girls. Throughout her pregnancy she has made statements about her not being ready to be a mother, immature and even though our sister is 25 has a college degree and her husband works for a top accounting firm. It leaves me to wonder at what age (she is now 27) will she decide that her own issues are the problem and work on them.