I, on the other hand, happen to be VERY fair. I'm biracial. I have white skin, European features, and long hair. Very few people can tell that I have African blood in my veins. Most people seem to project their insecurities onto me because of my physical appearance. When I dated a dark-skinned guy, the reactions from other people were ridiculous. Other black females were pissed because they thought he was with a white woman. His mother did NOT like me because of my color. I can state that without a doubt. This is one reason I did not wish to continue a relationship with him. That, and the constant abuse he inflicted on me.

I can relate to what you are saying and I agree with you to an extent…but like I said, you aren't light at all. No one, let alone other black people, would ever question what race you belong to. Women are probably being hostile because you're attractive. You have lovely hair and beautiful features. You also seem to be extremely intelligent. I doubt that it is entirely about your color. Most women tend to be insecure around ANY woman who is prettier, sexier, more intelligent, etc. It is rare to see a woman who is secure within herself and not trying to belittle others to make herself feel better. Some people are simply jealous of others for different reasons.

I appreciate your defense of all black women, including light-skinned sistas. Black women are beautiful, like James Revels said. We need to see beauty in ourselves and one another. We need to have some unity.

Dark-skinned women who dislike lighter women are insecure because they perceive us to be more privileged in society. This is not true, at least not in my case. I have NEVER looked down on a darker woman in my life or believed that I was superior because of my fair skin. I have no control over the lack of melanin in my skin. I have no control over my ancestry or the fact that I look like this. I'm sick of assumptions being made about me. I have experienced racism from all kinds of people.

We are all one people. Some of us might look different. Some of us might be lighter or more non-black in appearance. Some of us might have blond hair, blue eyes, white skin, and fine features. But in this society we are still black, because most racists do not care how much European blood is in our veins. Black folks in general have severe hangups when it comes to skin color and hair texture. We need to stop disrespecting one another and start loving one another.

We are diverse. We are beautiful. We come in snow white, ivory, butterscotch, honey, caramel, cocoa, dark chocolate, and blue-black. Some of us have woolly curls. Some have lovely kinks. Some have hair like silk.

Black people are gorgeous…yet we can be so vicious and cruel to one another.