Basketball star Richard Jefferson canceled his wedding plans to his girlfriend of five years Keyshia Ni’Cole Nichols recently. They had a very “tense” Fourth of July weekend and this contributed to his decision. The catch here is not that they spent $2 million on planning the wedding, or even that there has been rumors circulating that he is gay. The hick up is that he canceled the wedding with her via email. Email! After five years he couldn’t even tell her face to face. This is what upsets me the most. I have no problems with him changing his mind at the last minute. Everyone is entitled to that. Especially about a decision as important as marriage, but he could have at least initially sat down with her face to face and explained his change of heart.

His reasoning for emailing her was “Sometimes you might write an e-mail to get your thoughts down right,”. Well then maybe you should have written a short speech about what you were going to tell her then at least called her. Granted they did speak at a later point. However, I think I would have been more upset about initially hearing of it via email.

For me, that would have been the hurtful part. Imagine checking your email and deleting that pesky spam and coming across this message from your fiancé before your wedding. Perhaps he knew they were headed for doom and ended it before she could legally take him for half of his bread. Don’t look at me like that! I’m sure that crossed his mind at least once. I imagine that he probably was nervous about her reaction. Maybe he thought she would whoop his ass (wouldn’t that have been a site). Either way I think he should have sucked it up and dealt with it and it was cowardly and selfish of him to do it this way. Did he even consider her initial reaction to an email concerning this? Something about it seems cowardly. Perhaps I am being oversensitive. Nah, he is wack for this. There also is a rumor that he paid the fiance’ for her emotional stress. Or maybe he paid her to keep five years of his dirty little secrets.